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Activity-Dear Me

As time passes, unti-unti nang nagkakaroon ng perspective ang lahat. Pero always remember, Healing is non-linear. Hindi dahil super okay ka today ay completely healed ka na, and that’s okay. Acceptance doesn’t mean nakalimutan mo na ang nangyari o wala ka nang nararamdaman. It’s not about being “over it” overnight. 

Dear me, Hindi kailangang kalimutan para makapagpatuloy...

Dearest me,

This reflection is for when you carry things differently as the journey goes on.

Activity Overview:

Instead, it looks like slowly understanding how this experience has shaped you into who you are today. Part ng process na bumalik-balik ang certain feelings or stages from time to time. This activity invites you to look back at everything in the relationship, the breakup, and the quiet moments with a softer lens. No pressure to reach a final destination, just a moment to notice ‘yung mga small shifts na nag-e-emerge sa’yo.

How can i release this?

guide para sa self mo na naging matibay sa gitna ng bagyo. 

Activity Instructions: Record a Message for Yourself

Find a quiet, comfy spot. Somewhere you feel safe and won’t be interrupted.

Set up your camera. Record a short video message addressed to yourself, the version of you who went through the emotional storm of losing someone.

Just talk. Speak in whatever way feels natural. Taglish, English, or just long sighs, okay lang ‘yan. No need for a “script” or a big conclusion.

Here are some prompts to guide you on what you can reflect on:

  • “To the version of me who felt so numb/hurt/angry: I want you to know that…”
  • “Something I understand now that you didn’t know then is…”
  • “Gusto ko lang sabihin sa’yo na proud ako kasi kinaya mo ‘yung…”
  • “Ito ‘yung part ng ‘tayo’ na natutunan ko, and I’m taking care of it now…”

Save it. Keep this video in a private folder or a “Dearest Me” album on your phone. This is for your eyes (and heart) only.

Why do I have to say this to me?

May mga bagay na mas maiintindihan mo kung babalikan mo nang tanaw.

Why This Activity Can Help:

Looking back with gentleness can help transform ‘yung mga mahihirap na memories into meaningful personal insights. When you talk to your past self, you are practicing self-compassion. Instead of forcing closure, recording this video encourages you to recognize your own resilience. You’re acknowledging your emotions while carrying forward what feels important to you now. It’s physical proof na kahit bumuhos ang ulan, laging may pagtila at ‘yung version mong dumaan sa bagyo? Valid siya, at safe na siya ngayon

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